Ask E. Jean - Tormented? Driven Witless? Whipsawed by confusion?

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There could be all sorts of things going on here. It could be the energy you put out. It could be that you are attracted to the wrong kind of guys; as in the ones who are unsuitable are the ones you are drawn to. It could be when things are going well, you unconsciously throw a monkey wrench in the works. Generally speaking, recurring motifs have something deeper behind them.

Also, the impression I've gotten from your message here is that you are impatient. And you are treating people as disposable - you took the trouble to make friends in your new location, but because they were all coupled, you dropped them. This could be the vibe that you are putting out - that you think people are disposable. And no one wants to go into a relationship feeling like they really don't matter, or soon won't matter if they don't fit a certain criteria. Also, your assessment is all about the externals and the other people involved; you're part of this equation, but there's nothing in your message to indicate that you are willing to admit that part of the problem may be with you.

So I'd recommend looking more internally to figure out why your dating history is less-than satisfactory. Do you have one or more friends who are willing to be brutally honest with you? Because I think you're going to have to get an honest assessment from someone who has observed you for awhile. If you can, talk with a therapist or counselor; an objective third party may be a big help in figuring out what is really going on.

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I'm sorry this wasn't the answer you wanted, but that's not what we're about here. Please give what I wrote here some thought and good luck!

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