Ask E. Jean - Tormented? Driven Witless? Whipsawed by confusion?

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I'm starting to see someone who has been a friend for years and our friendship is built upon a solid foundation of similar interests, easy communication, and humor. We're taking it slow because we don't want to rush but I can tell that we're EVENTUALLY going to end up in the bedroom.

Why is that a problem? It's not, really, but he's a virgin. I've had sex with like, way more than 0. I'm a very eager and passionate lover and I don't know how to approach the situation. I have some time to figure it out but it's on my mind.

What's a horny girl to do?

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    Tell him what you like. If you make it more about your particular preferences, rather than a "training" session, it will take the pressure off of him.

    The second time, make it about learning his particularities and wants. By the third time, you should both have the rudiments of what makes each other tick.

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    To be honest, I would completely follow his lead the first time. Let him explore you and get used to the idea of being naked with another person. Don't insist on intercourse or even look for either of you to orgasm.

    Lots of times, we get into a pattern with sex. We know what *we* want and are focused on seeing that our partner provides it. Which is fine if your partner's experience level is close to your own.

    Since that's not the case here, you need to make sure that his first time is comfortable for him and fun for you both.

    So, absolutely show him what you like, but take it slow. Sex is -- and should be -- different with each partner. While he is getting to know your body, you also need to get to know his.

    Concentrate on the journey and the destination will be worth waiting for.

    I hope that helps! Good luck!

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