Ask E. Jean - Tormented? Driven Witless? Whipsawed by confusion?

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Honey, I think you answered your own question.

You say you don't see marriage as your goal, but you also say that you fear being strung along to an inevitable end.

What I see is that the two of you are on different pages.

He's willing to just kind of keep you in the background of his life, which is not a bad thing. It's where he is.

I think you want more of an active partner. Someone to build a life with or at least to explore the next few years with as romantic teammates. That's not a bad thing. It's where you are.

So ... you just don't want the same things from this relationship. Or even from *a* relationship. That doesn't mean that either of you is a bad person. It just means that you're not a good fit for each other.

My advice is to have one more conversation about this. If you are still on different pages, then you might want to gently, firmly and lovingly let him go.

Because you don't have to be "strung along". You get to make choices about you. <3

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