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Saw a comic strip today: "One Shade of Grey" A feminist fantasy- "And she said "no" and he respected her wishes and persisted no more. The end."

While I am not an extreme feminist or what not I was deeply disturbed by the creepy and demeaning relationship between Grey and Ana that I ended up not even finishing the entire film. Maybe I'm being dramatic?

What did you Vixens think of 50 Shades of Grey?

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    I have to be honest; I have not seen the movie nor read more than a few excerpts from the book.

    That said, I read an article where someone pointed out that we never see Ana have an orgasm.

    Apparently, we also never see her be good at her job? Doesn't her roommate do an interview in her place for some reason?

    I dislike the books because they are badly written -- it only took a few excerpts to see that. And the movie -- from what I hear -- is not a celebration of female sexuality or even a celebration of BDSM.

    From what I've read about it, most women who dislike the film do so because it's filmed the same way most other films are -- from an immature guy's point of view and solely for his pleasure.

    So, that's my two cents. I look forward to hearing from Vixpeeps who have actually read the books or seen the film.

    In the meantime, I'ma give "50 Shades of Grey" the same treatment the author gave "Twilight". I'm gonna change the characters' names, but make it about grown-ups.


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    And I think the woman will be the billionaire ... who offers the contract to a younger man.

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    I haven't read it, nor do I have the desire. I realized almost immediately that the book didn't accurately portray BSDM, and I have never wanted anything to do with bad romance novels.

    I am stunned that more women haven't discovered Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty Trilogy or even the "erotica" section of the bookstore via the popularity of "50 Shades of Grey".

    What is an extreme feminist? As a regular-every-day-garden-variety feminist, I have no idea what you are referring to.

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    Maggie wrote: I haven't read it, nor do I have the desire. I realized almost immediately that the book didn't accurately portray BSDM, and I have never wanted anything to do with bad romance novels. I am stunned that more women haven't discovered Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty Trilogy or even the "erotica" section of the bookstore via the popularity of "50 Shades of Grey". What is an extreme feminist? As a regular-every-day-garden-variety feminist, I have no idea what you are referring to.

    I am not one for erotica to begin with but wanted to see what all the fuss was about and I wasn't impres at all. I've heard of the Sleeping Beauty trilogy but never read it.

    You don't know what I mean in regards to extreme feminism? I'm referring to equal rights for women and women empowerment however I do not believe in ripping apart the male sex in the process. Extreme or radical feminism is by definition referred here by womenhistory.about.com: "Radical feminism is a philosophy emphasizing the patriarchal roots of inequality between men and women, or, more specifically, social dominance of women by men. Radical feminism views patriarchy as dividing rights, privileges and power primarily by gender, and as a result oppressing women and privileging men.

    Radical feminists tend to be more militant in their approach (radical as "getting to the root") than other feminists are. Radical feminism opposes existing political and social organization in general because it is inherently tied to patriarchy. Thus, radical feminists tend to be skeptical of political action within the current system, and instead tend to focus on culture change that undermines patriarchy and associated hierarchical structures."

    With that definition in mind I do not view this film as an outright attack on women but I do view it with great skepticism and distaste. All my gf's are absolutely crazy for the books and film but yeah it just wasn't my cup of tea.

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    Robynne wrote: I have to be honest; I have not seen the movie nor read more than a few excerpts from the book. That said, I read an article where someone pointed out that we never see Ana have an orgasm. Apparently, we also never see her be good at her job? Doesn't her roommate do an interview in her place for some reason? I dislike the books because they are badly written -- it only took a few excerpts to see that. And the movie -- from what I hear -- is not a celebration of female sexuality or even a celebration of BDSM. From what I've read about it, most women who dislike the film do so because it's filmed the same way most other films are -- from an immature guy's point of view and solely for his pleasure. So, that's my two cents. I look forward to hearing from Vixpeeps who have actually read the books or seen the film. In the meantime, I'ma give "50 Shades of Grey" the same treatment the author gave "Twilight". I'm gonna change the characters' names, but make it about grown-ups.

    Yes! Exactly Robynne. I felt like it was a movie put together by a few high school boys but literally no story line. The fact that she is rather meek and insecure is just off putting in itself. I have to say too the lip bit was a bit excessive.

    I'm a hopeless romantic. Give me the Notebook or A Walk To Remember any day of the week and I'm a happy girl.

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    Robynne wrote: And I think the woman will be the billionaire ... who offers the contract to a younger man.

    Haha!!! That's funny cause after I turned off Fifty Shades of Grey I ended up watching The Boy Nextdoor and that was Jennifer Lopez with a MUCH younger man but unfortunately the story line of that movie was predictable and kinda boring but hey good for JLow. Lol.

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    I bought all three books back in 2012 when the trilogy had just come out and the hype was surrounding it. I barely made it through the first book before gifting it to a friend for her birthday. What I remember is that yes, the writing was immature, it felt like a 12 year old girl had written this, I felt Christian read more like a creepy 45 year old who preys on young girls, he also read like a stalker with all that being everywhere she went and showering her with expensive gifts.

    I didn't like it, nor did I like it now when the internet was buzzing before the movie had come out. I hope someone decides to spare us of the sequels.

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    All I needed to know was that it started as fan fiction for Twilight. ???!!!

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    Gerbera wrote: I bought all three books back in 2012 when the trilogy had just come out and the hype was surrounding it. I barely made it through the first book before gifting it to a friend for her birthday. What I remember is that yes, the writing was immature, it felt like a 12 year old girl had written this, I felt Christian read more like a creepy 45 year old who preys on young girls, he also read like a stalker with all that being everywhere she went and showering her with expensive gifts. I didn't like it, nor did I like it now when the internet was buzzing before the movie had come out. I hope someone decides to spare us of the sequels.

    Okay. Glad I am not alone in thinking he is capital C-R-E-E-P-Y. I was like "why is he showing up everywhere she is?" We call that stalking here in the States but maybe England has a different definition. lol

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    Judy wrote: All I needed to know was that it started as fan fiction for Twilight. ???!!!

    Pretty much! As I didn't care for Twilight either. If I was maybe 14 years old but not at my ripe ole age of 26. Definitely not my cup of tea. As I said earlier though-to each their own. Just wanted to gauge some of the Vixens opinions.

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