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Hey Vixies--

To impress that special guy, what's better?

Sexy hot red lips
or --
smoldering bedroom eyes?

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    Why not both? And lots of bare skin. Bare skin never clashes with anything you're wearing, and sets off red lips and smoldering bedroom eyes.

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    So very much depends on the guy... and how well you work it.
    Why does it have to be one or the other... go for broke!

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    Smoldering eyes. It stays on your face.

    Red lipstick can get way too messy for the average kiss-er.

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    My husband hates lipstick/gloss and won't kiss me if I have it on. So I'd have to go for the eyes.

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    Devil's Advocate here. If you don't know enough about him to know the answer, how special can he already be to you?

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    Smoldering eyes for sure, with glossy lips without color so it looks like you lickin' your pout ready to tear him up!

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    Bedroom eyes. Smoky, sultry, sexy eyes will always work!

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    Let's try something else. The aura of mystery. The demure and half frightened fawn like glance from under the eyelashes, a slight biting of the lips, well , the well chaperoned Regency debutantes managed to get their man,with this modest and demure demeanor, so why not try it for a change. However, please don't try the speech impaired ,stammering and stuttering Barbara Cartland white clad witless virginal damsel stunt, that ludicrous idea went out with Dame Barbara and the dinosaurs. Don't forget the subtle perfume at the nape of your neck. Men go wild when they inhale something sweet at that particular erogenous point.

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    I'd go for the smoldering eyes! Red lipstick is sexy and all, but not sexy when it gets all over your teeth. Also some guys might find it too intense. Seriously, what guy can resist a girl with sexy bedroom eyes?? Even I as a girl think girls with smoky smoldering eyes are sexy!

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    I'd go the eyes every time. They can be as suggestive as any mouth. Plus, you don't risk over-egging the pudding with too much lipstick or obvious lip licking and pouting. That stuff will either make him feel embarrassed or (if you're talking about your first seduction) making him feel like you're a dead cert and he'll be on top of you within the hour.

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    I think it definitely depends on the guy, my guy lourves my luscious lips and pretty much pounces on me as soon as he sees I've applied the perfect lipstick. He'd probably be frightened if he saw me after trying to apply sultry eye makeup, it's not pretty ;)

    I think I'd apply a/b/c testing on this one, mix it up and see which combination gets his engines roaring!

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    I like to stick with the classics - red nails and smoldering eyes. Opt for a simple, moisturizing lip balm, instead of the lipstick, particularly if you're looking to sneak in a few public smooches.

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    Not quite sure here. You see, Leslie has a good point here. Where are you going to be and what's the mood there? First of all, the eyes are always nice. If he's any man worth his weight in gold, he's going to be paying more attention to your eyes than anything else. You don't want to come off as (and I'm going to have to watch my tongue) "easy," so a nice neutral tone or slightly pink lip gloss, gloss not stick, it's not as chalky, is better than bright red.
    Plus, be modest and don't wear anything that's going to show too much skin. You want to woo the guy, not make him think he's going to get you in the sack. He'll respect you. And if not, then he's not worth it.

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    I'd go with the smoldering eyes, because red lipstick will get all over your guy. Think about it, with that much kissing, he'll have red marks all over his face and body and that's not sexy. Go for some sexy eyes and some moisturizing lip stuff. I recommend Rosebud Salve, because it's super moisturizing, very slippery, and gives you a very kissable look.

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    Dear Linda-licious,

    Smoldering bedroom eyes all the way! Bust out the kohl black eyeliner, curl those lashes so your eyes really pop, slick on some mascara and maybe a bit of eyeshadow.

    They say that the eyes are the windows to the soul, and for good reason. What is hotter than long, lingering eye contact with someone you are attracted to?

    Most guys I know don't like the way lipstick tastes and feels against their lips.

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    It's all about you, baby -- what's your best feature? If you have luscious lips, you can play them up without being all goopy. I love using a creamy lip liner (my favorite is Lord & Berry) with just a little bit of lip balm -- lasts a long time, feels good and doesn't migrate around your face (or his) the way lipstick can.

    If you have amazing eyes, try different colors to really bring out the best in you, not just the latest fashion. Since we don't know what you look like, specific ideas might not be helpful.

    This is where I love cosmetic playgrounds like Sephora and Ulta. If you have one near you, or even a good drugstore, go in and play with the testers. It's like Disneyland for your face! Try things you'd never try on your own. Then wash them off and try something else. Take a friend you trust, and you can even take pics in between so you can compare and remember what you did. Write down the products you love, then buy what you can within your budget. This kind of fantasy shopping is the BEST!

    Enjoy, and have fun!

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    Bedroom eyes, for sure! I polled all the guys here at my office (10) and nine of them said it's the smoldering eyes that do it for them, every time.

    Make sure you have a good angle brush, and two shades of dark shadow to rim the eyes, and a nice pearly shimmer for the overall lid. To go really glam, fake lashes never hurt. But, a good curler and dark mascara are just as hot.

    Plus, bright lipsticks can get messy, making guys a little put off by the possibility of wearing what you've got on. And that's not something to bat an eye at!

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    It depends on the guy...and the woman who's wearing it. Some women look hotter playing up their eyes...while others look more sultry playing up their lips.
    Some days I prefer to play up my eyes and go with a softer lip...although I will admit that I'm not too great at putting on eye make-up.
    And then there are days that I'd rather play up my lips with a classic red and leave everything else basic and simple.

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    If he is wearing a blindfold, it won't matter ;) With that being said, sultry lips could make them hunger for oral pleasures...on the other hand they might enjoy you watching them please you with smoldering eyes...if it's for him...what does he enjoy more?

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    Linda, you have beautiful eyes so rock that sexy, bedroom eyes look!

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    I Love it when fun-loving girls ask a question! Let me tell you something sweetie pie if a guy is attracted to you it really won't matter what make-up you're wearing, because most likely he'll be looking at ALL of you. Guys tend to notice the entire package, so why on earth we females tend to want to spot enhance is beyond me. Just go up to your special man looking hot from head to toe, Lady Ma'am, and he is sure to melt like a M&M! However, with that being said less will always be definitely more. So, when it comes to wearing make-up pick your best feature and work that out. Playing up what makes you truly beautiful will always strike a high note. Have fun!

    -Ari

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    To impress a guy, it completely depends on what you believe is your best feature. If it's your eyes, the smoldering bedroom eyes are fantastic. But if it's your lips, then make them red hot! If you are confident then a man will of course believe you are sexy.

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    Actually, rather than trying to impress somebody, why not focus instead on making yourself into the best possible person you can be? Chasing after guys can have the opposite effect from what you want---they tend to run the other way. But if you have a healthy self-esteem and a positive self-image, and you actually like and respect yourself, it shows. Guys pick up on that and are more likely to gravitate towards that person, because they're fun to be with. So ditch the old "sexy hot red lips/smoldering bedroom eyes" thing. If you're really looking to attract that one special guy, he'll see right through that tired old approach. Be yourself!

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    I'd go for the eyes, the lips will definitely get messy. But do keep in mind that most guys are NOT into lots of makeup. They prefer natural, fresh faces. So go for something maybe with lots of mascara and some peachy cheeks. Also keep in mind that if you cannot carry off what you are wearing, better leave it at home. Do something you are comfortable with

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    i say the red hot lips cuz once you are done you can wipe it off and get back to life.

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    most guys hate lipstick anyway....... the eyes have it everytime

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    I would have to disagree, red lipstick can be really hot. But I would say that in the end, nothing compares to a beautiful pair of eyes and a powerful stare.

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    Bedroom eyes with smudgy smoke, red lipstick can look cute, but it is a beeyatch to keep perfect and nothing is less sexy than pushing a guy away so you won't "mess" your makeup. Whatever you do, don't combine. I am off the tried and true one or the other method.

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    Go for the eyes girlfriend. You don't have to touch them up like the lipstick!

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    Hi Linda,

    Here is my favorite tried and true advice about how to make the best possible impression: be comfortable!

    If you do not normally wear red lipstick or smokey eye shadow and you will be self-consciously worrying about it all night, skip both! On the other hand, if your signature look includes one or the other, by all means, let your true self shine.

    If you're not sure what your preferred look is, experiment a little bit before your big night out. Remember that most people look their best when hey highlight their own favorite features. So if you love your lips, maybe reach for the lipstick first. If you have always thought of your eyes as your best feature, start by playing those up.

    Try doing your makeup for a night out with the girls or even just to hang around your home for a while. Pay attention to how you're feeling and check yourself in the mirror after a few hours. Do you feel too costumed and self-conscious, or does the extra color that you've chosen make you feel beautiful and confident?

    Your personal opinion of your own look is what will influence your behavior the most, so you really need to know your own style before you can work it, girl. Stepping out in a look that you love is the surest way to knock 'em dead!

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    Red lips and smoky eyes should both be saved for formal occasions. Choose one and go neutral everywhere else. It is also important to make sure the lipstick you choose agrees with your skin tone. Try going to a makeup counter at a department store for a professional makeover, telling the makeup artist what look you would like to achieve. Most makeup counters require you purchase two of their items in lieu of the free makeover. For an everyday look, neutral makeup is the way to go. A simple, beige eyeshadow with no eyeliner and light mascara, paired with a clear or slightly tinted lip gloss is great because it brings out your features without making it look like you're wearing too much makeup.

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    Eyes are the windows of the soul. Use them. That glance across a crowded room, or just looking completely interested in what he's saying will make him remember you. Practice on your friends and be sincere. They'll suddenly want to be with you more.

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    Red Lips. You don't want him to kiss your eyes do you?

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    Smoldering eyes with a nude or pink glossy lip.

    Mags have polled men on which is sexier, a red lip or a pale glossy lip and they prefer the pale glossy.

    A matte red lip is very aging. I read somewhere that when Angelina Jolie has to look older for a role, they give her a matte red lip.

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    Honestly, and take this from a guy, it completely depends on his feelings for you. If I don't like a girl, red lipstick makes me see tramp. If I do, I think about what I'd like to see those lips do.
    And the same bedroom eyes from a cutie I like will creep me out with one I don't.


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    Linda

    The deafening lipstick can go, but the bedroom eyes are surprisingly popular as navigational tools.

    Add Little Black Dress (without which there wouldn't be a human race) and if that doesn't impress the guy, he may be dead, or watching the game.

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    If he likes the eyes introduce him to the lips later.

    The most impressed I've ever been by a girl was after a date in University. Right after a goodnight kiss at the steps of her dorm she punched me in the stomach and ran away laughing. We dated for a few months after that.

    So, maybe it is not the lips nor the eyes...but the fist!

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    Lol. Cleavage. Then the lips. Then the eyes, if he's even looking up at that point. Good luck!

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    Ohhh cleavage. Absolutely! Thanks, jeannie. LOL

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    How about nude, glossy lips? I get this from guys all the time: au natural is the way to go. For kissable, succulent lips; I like to dab on vaseline and finish with MAC lip glass.

    You wouldn't believe what it does for your face! You have the allure of gloss and shine, without the need to worry if your lipstick is smudging his date night best.

    Add a little mascara and dab with a Q-tip for those bedroom eyes and I say, you're all set!


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    Linda,

    Oddly enough. Neither dear. And both.Those are just sprinkles on the cupcake.I fell rapturously, head over heels in love with a tall, goateed, green eyed stranger who used to stare at me when I lugged my overflowing laundry basket to the corner laundromat. I was often in my worst saggy, baggy sweats and voluminous old shirts I'd thrown on just because it was laundry day, after all, and who could I possibly meet there? We became nodding aquaintances after a bit, then we'd chat or buy our quarters together. And then one day, he walked me home, and swept me into his arms in a breathless deep-soul kiss that will be forever seared on my lips and my memory. I later discovered that he got a stackable apartment sized washer/dryer months before....but he was so intrigued by the assured way I hoisted my laundry bags, by the jaunty tilt to my chin, the spring in my step, and the way I threw my head back when I laughed, that it didn't require any tricks, or visual illusions to hook him. I was absolutely flabberghasted. I had spent years and maxed out cards getting plucked, and tweezed, and dyed within an inch of my life.......and, here I was, looking like an unmade bed ,luring the love of my life into a bed that was made.
    Go figure. That's when it struck me. If you feel as sexy as Eve herself, and want your pout to be a slash of brilliant scarlet when you see him, do it. If you want to channel your inner Cleopatra with smokey, kohl-rimmed eyes, do it. But do it without the expectation of his reaction. Do it with a view to channeling your inner goddess in whatever form she takes. Be the best expression of yourself at that particular moment. Don't dress like a trashy slut because you think that's what he will fall for. Dress like a trashy slut because you are one, at that particular time, deep in your soul, and you need to let her out to prowl. Save yourself a lot of heartache trying to simulate an appearance you think will drive him wild with desire for you. Express yourself, sweetie. He will come along on the journey or not.

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    Linda babe, there are three things wrong with your question, or rather, three things in your question that make it wrong.

    1. special guy
    2. sexy hot red lips
    3. smoldering, bedroom eyes

    do you see the contradiction now babe?

    which one of these does not belong in the picture? it's number one. he's special yes? why are you bothering with two cliche means of attraction? if you want to bed the guy then sure, why go for either go for both. do you usually call guys you want to sleep with special? if he's special because of personality, a way he makes you feel or a way you want to make him feel, the way you melt together like the world is your wok, awaiting all the ingredients life has to offer you both, if he's already this special, forget the make-up, or just go easy anyway. focus on a real storm to hold his vessel steady, focus on what's special about you and he'll end up considering you as special as you seem to do him.

    then again, it's all back to your definition of special.

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    What looks better on you??

    On fair skin types, bare eyes and red, luscious lips are killer.

    On olive and darker skin types, smokey eyes and bare lips are best.

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    OK after doing extensive surveys on what guys really like, here are my findings:

    Not all men are created equal!

    Pay attention!

    What looks cute to women sometimes looks crazy to men.

    What looks funky to a woman may be the sexiest thing in the world to a guy.

    Some guys donít like makeup at all. Some will never notice any of the details that women spend countless hours and infinite dollars on.

    Tip #1: Research the unique male specimen that you are trying to get with and find out what HE likes and what He doesnít like and work with that.

    Tip #2: Real people donít like fake so be yourself whatever you do. If who you are fundamentally is not close to what he would like than itís not a fit and you might want to move one.

    Tip #3: Donít chase men, youíll end up looking desperate, and that my dears, is a diagram for disaster.

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    Red lipstick is a bit obvious and as a result it kind of looses it's sex appeal. But eyes are the window to the soul and no one smokey eye its like another. But may I also suggest appealing to his fantasy in a subtle manner - if he fantasizes about cheerleaders - a little smokey eye, a poneytail and sweater will go a long way... you get the picture

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    Sexy lips and smoldering eyes are all very well, until you open your mouth and speak. If you have nothing to say, it won't matter how sexy your lips or how much your eyes smolder. Impress him with your wit and intelligence and the rest will be just icing on the cake.

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    Paul wrote: I would have to disagree, red lipstick can be really hot. But I would say that in the end, nothing compares to a beautiful pair of eyes and a powerful stare.

    I'd go with direct eye contact. A powerful stare would be too much to take on first acquaintance. Might send the gentleman's intentions into deep hiding.

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    Lovely Linda, what is your intention? Are you of the school of thinking that classifies crimson lips as only suitable for tearing buttons off of shirts? Do you believe that your eyes are windows into the recesses of your very heart, or are they sex-artillery? The truth is, if you're a classy chick, you can pull off either. My advice would be to play up whichever you consider to be your more ravishing feature, and then let your sparkling personality capture him, not your make-up artistry. Hopefully he's a good goober who's worth all this fuss!

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    Frankly, I don't know of any straight guy who would be impressed by a girl's makeup application techniques. As for what is simply attractive to a guy, they're all different, and they also frequently contradict themselves, or at least like more than just one thing. Most of my guy friends have expressed that they prefer girls to look more natural, but also drool over pictures of Scarlett Johansson all done up with the blonde bombshell hair and bright red lips. But then again, that look really works for her. If you want a makeup tip for a big date, just play to your strengths, instead of trying to match yourself to a certain look - that's chapter 1, paragraph 1 of the Cosmetics 101 handbook. If you didn't just mean "attract" but actually "impress," like in the sense of leaving a good impression on someone, well, you really need more than the perfectly tweezed brow to get there. Unless your interaction with this guy lasts for only 30 seconds, what he'll be most impressed by won't be your makeup, but what you have, or don't have, to say for yourself.

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    I say the eyes -- NOTHING beats a pair of sexy bedroom eyes - and smoky eyes are so easy!...Also, add a touch of clear, high gloss to the middle of your bottom lip (NO lipstick, just the gloss) -- the smoldering eyes and the sexy, kissable lips are TOO HOT...

    But in case your man loves the red lip thing, DON'T do BOTH smoky eyes AND red lips -- you have to draw attention to one or the other -- too much going on looks like a red light special, know what I mean? Choose one and play it up and go au naturale with the other...

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    A Sexy vixen exudes her looks, pretty face and compliments it with the body language.

    To impress the guy...

    Use your eyes first: the way you look must be seductive, wanting and vulnerable at the same time.

    The next step is to use those precious red lips, bite your lower lip as a sign of invitation. Blowing tiny whispers in the air signals your openness.

    The final formula leads to a sweet passionate kiss.

    Being sexy is all about the eyes, the lips and the rest of the body...each action completes the definition. A sure way to impress the man on target!

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    Dear Linda,

    There is no way to impress a guy using makeup application. Sure, you may be able to tie his tongue in a knot wit ha couple practiced eyelash bats, or lead him to think naughty thoughts, but guys are not impressed by lipstick and fake eyelashes.

    If you want to impress a guy, you show him your backbone, you stand up for the weak, and prove to him that a moral compass does still exist in the land of the free. If you want to impress a guy, you can speak to him of your knowledge of history, or politics, you can give him your opinion on who the next president should be. Guys are impressed by who you are not what you wear on your face.

    But, if you aren't seeking to impress a guy, but merely to seduce him, then play up your best asset. Do you have Angelina Jolie lips or Marylin Monroe Eyes? You cant go wrong if you play up your favorite feature, put on your confidence and flirt up a storm. Nothing is more sexy than a woman (whether fat, skinny, short, tall, or anywhere in between) who loves the skin she is in and isn't afraid of letting the world know.

    Now, those women are impressive.

    Namaste,
    Erika

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    Linda Girl
    Sex is about the secret life of chemistry. Lipstick, powder, eye shadow, etc. can only enhance what is either there or not: sexual chemistry. The beautiful thing about chemistry is that no one knows how it works (not even Estee Lauder). It just is. If popular culture is any indication, apparently chemistry is intense when it turns out that your lover is your sibling (Private Practice and Boston Legal both had this story line of two people who are in love turning out to be siblings). For the rest of us, we simply need to put ourselves out there and pray the electrons collide.

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    Thanks everyone for the great advice.

    Ya know the reason I asked this to begin with wasn't so much about using make up to woo, but rather, what was everyone's preference in so far as highlighting eyes or highlighting lips.

    A good friend of mine does make up for a living.

    1) she used to be a make up artist
    2) she is now an actress and does her own make up every day
    3) she owns her own make up company which is very successful.

    It is her credo, and she swears by this, to either play up one or the other, but never both. If you have great eyes, the smoldering, sexy, smokey eye should be your thing. If you have great lips, go for broke ...

    ...although I don't know that I'd go so far as the Angelina Jolie look in the Changeling! Not that's some Red Lips...

    So I was really just wondering which you perferred:

    1) showing off your eyes, or showing off your lips and

    2) or does it matter to you?

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    Emphasizing lips vs. eyes usually depends on your features. If you have Angelina lips, go for the lipstick. If you have Carmen Electra eyes, do the smoldering shadow. But truthfully, this advice is only for a night out dancing.

    If you're interested in truly impressing him in the beauty department, wash your face and go au naturel. It's my secret weapon that more women should know about. A guy who finds you gorgeous without your make-up on is the most special. He'll be waking up to the real you one day anyway, might as well impress him with your fresh-faced confidence from the get-go!

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    Oh my gosh- I'm a triple advocate for the eyes, eyes, eyes. They are the windows to the soul. To be extra sure, though, why not add a lil gloss to a light colored lip as well?

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    you know what they say "the eyes are the window to the soul" so the sexy bed room eyes should do the job red lipstick is so 80s and most guys ecsually prefer the whole natural thing :)

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    Linda wrote: Thanks everyone for the great advice. Ya know the reason I asked this to begin with wasn't so much about using make up to woo, but rather, what was everyone's preference in so far as highlighting eyes or highlighting lips. A good friend of mine does make up for a living. 1) she used to be a make up artist 2) she is now an actress and does her own make up every day 3) she owns her own make up company which is very successful. It is her credo, and she swears by this, to either play up one or the other, but never both. If you have great eyes, the smoldering, sexy, smokey eye should be your thing. If you have great lips, go for broke ... ...although I don't know that I'd go so far as the Angelina Jolie look in the Changeling! Not that's some Red Lips... So I was really just wondering which you perferred: 1) showing off your eyes, or showing off your lips and 2) or does it matter to you?

    I always go for the eyes first, but red lips well made up not only provide a focus for kissing but make your teeth look whiter.

    Use your eyes to get the guys attention and signal that you're ready to be kissed. That's when the lipstick comes in handy.

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    Did you know that most lipstick is toxic unless you pay attention to ingredients and buy your lipstick from healthy sources like whole foods. Women consume an average of five pounds of lipstick a year! Don't you wanna know what is in that pigmented gunk going through your tummy?
    Ok Ok, I know I am not answering the question but I thought I could use this time to get you to check out a great website that explains the connections between breast cancer and harmful ingredients in beauty products that we use every day.

    http://operationuglybeauty.com/toxins-to-look-for-in-your-make-up/

    hmmm, I guess if you use beet juice as a natural stain on your lips, you can go with that for now.


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    The eyes are, after all, the window to our souls. Choose easily blendable colors is my one piece of advice, then set his little heart on fire!

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    I'd definitely say red lips. Nothing sexier than red lips. Guys can be taken in by a sexy pair of lips but if you don't want him to think sexually about you, maybe just stick to the smouldering eyes, because he'll be imagining your lips around his you know where. Very true!!

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    Linda,

    Why do you think they call them Bedroom Eyes? Our eyes tell all. They send out subliminal or aggressive messages without speaking a word. They are the best tool to use to communicate in the manner that we wish. Dress them up or dress them down knowing the eyes have a mystic power to attract for they can reach as deep as one's soul. And they have a staying power that can last a lifetime, if you catch your soulmate through them. I don't know of any red lipstick that can stay on that long. Have fun!

    Laura


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    Pick one or the other, but definately not both at the same time. Too much of a good thing, is well, too much of a good thing? If you are going to play up the eyes, then go with a nude lip. Paler eye shadow and skin if you are going to go with the ruby red lipstick. Remember - you are trying to impress your man, not have him think he is taking a hooker out to dinner!

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    Dear Linda,

    Why do us women feel compelled to slather on the eye makeup or the red lips to get a man? Are we that confused and led astray that we have to paint on an image to get their attention? Honey, I say you slay him with your strong sense of self, your innate sense of humor and natural intelligence. If he doesn't come crawling to you for those traits alone, I say "NEXT"!

    Good luck!
    EV

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    A kind word. A gentle touch. A compliment to what you find attractive in him. Your support when he's down. Your genuine enthusiasm when he expresses his dreams for the future. Your honesty. Your dependability. Your love.

    These are the things that long term impress a guy.

    All lips and eyes do is make a short term impression.

    And then it depends of whether he's a lip or eye person.

    Because if he's a boobs or butt person, you can paint your eyes red and put lashes on your lips -- he won't notice.




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    The eye's have it unless you have Angelina lips. As it has been stated numerous times, the eyes are the window to your soul. Lipstick is also a messy proposition. Try leaving a trail of lip prints up to the bedroom and give him the one two punch with those eyes. My guess is you will be one satisfied vixen.

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    AYA. Accent Your Asset. You dig? If the "eyes" have it, focus your energies and your artistic eye-shadowing on your ocular endowments. If your lips are luscious, let THEM do the talking.
    Also, without being too obvious, find out what this special guy prefers. Show him some pictures of Angelina or Paris and see what he has to say about eyes and lips. Find the key to his tastes and you've got him.

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    Smoldering bedroom eyes work better for me. Lipstick inherently warns men away from kissing, as we don't want to smear it. Giving someone "that" look, though...that'll just send them while. And by them, I mean me. Being a guy.

    Every guy is different, though. Is there something wrong with trying both?

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    Well if you really want to impress that special guy I would go a different direction than focusing on your lips and eyes. Since you are clearly going for the sexual chemistry factor (clever girl, you!), it is imperative that your whole persona screams ďtake a load of thisĒ! Determine what your best attributes are and display them like sweets in the candy shop. Now mind you, there is a difference between showing off your assets and tarting yourself up to look like a two bit hussy. Displaying your rack should be about accentuating the golden goodies, and covering up the jiggling bits that nobody really needs to see.

    Mystery will get you everything. Itís not a treasure hunt if there is no search to find the booty, right? Sharing the color of your panties by pulling your g-string up high out of your low rise jeans has never been and never will be attractive. All that is going to get you is a one way ticket to a back alley thumping by some greasy barfly who will walk away before the cleanup is complete. Letís be classy here ladies! Wear form fitting apparel if your form is fit. If not, buy clothing that flatters instead of horrifies. Muffin top will never be cute, not even if your muffin is more toned than the next bakery item on the shelf.

    High heels will never cease to be sexy, no matter what your size or shape. Just make sure you know how to totter in them properly. I always have to chuckle at the girls I see out and about staggering in their stacked wedges with no clue how to strut their stuff. But back to impressing that special guyÖ It ultimately will come down to how confident you are in your own skin. Never try to be somebody you are not, but do not be afraid to experiment, fantasize and role play to bring more excitement into your own life.

    And donít forget, you can do all of this with sexy hot red lips and smoldering bedroom eyes!

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    I look like a clown in red lipstick, but I can work the bedroom cat eyes like nobody's business :)

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    For as long as there is teasing, provoking, smiling (aka first dates) go with creamy, crimson red,luscious lips.

    When you are ready to taste the cooking, go smoky eyed.

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    I find, on average, that a man is much more attracted to the aroma of grilling steaks or the sweet, sweet sounds of a World Series Highlights mixtape.

    However, if I were a guy given your two choices, I think I would have to go with the red lips. It's very sexy to have a guy's attention riveted on a woman's lips, watching them move as we talk. Hot red lips are a heck of an attention getter.

    And, as far as the "getting messy or all over your teeth" issue, color stay products have come a long way. I don't even get my lipstick on my coffee cup anymore.

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    Hey Linda,
    Why should you limit yourself to all or nothing in one shot? Instead, try alternating between both looks, giving you some versatility.

    It is often easier to focus on one feature at a time. So try the smoldering eyes one day, with the more subtle lips, and then try the red-hot lips another day, with more subdued eyes.

    Your guy will enjoy the different looks, and so will you. Just remember one thing. This should be more about you, because if you are feeling hot -- everyone around you will feel the sizzle too!

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    Dear Linda, Whatís the occasion? Would you be going on a date with this special guy?
    Or is this guy someone special that youíre trying to impress in hopes of connecting with him?

    Believe it or not most guys donít like it when a woman is wearing too much makeup.
    Make sure your make up is sensual and accentuate your eyes. The eyes are the mirrors of the soul and they can penetrate anotherís soul.

    Wear a shade of lipstick that's not over whelming you may want to consider a sexy colored lip-gloss.
    A moist lip look can be an attention getter.


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    Thanks, Vixie Vixens. Your advice rocks. I will definitely try one look one time and another look the other time.

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    Linda,

    Eyes. Lipstuck rubs off when you kiss.

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    Dear Linda,

    It all depends on what you want. If you're looking to have crazy mind-blowing-sheet-tangling-porn-star-status sex, I'd go with the sexy hot red lips. Lips are sensuous, kissable, and easily wiped off. Smoldering bedroom eyes might leave streaks of mascara all over the pillowcases and raccoon eyes and leave you looking like a two cent corner worker.

    If you want to "impress" the guy, I'd go with the "smoldering bedroom eyes." A wise man once wrote, "The eyes are the window of the soul." So to "impress," go with highlighting they eyes. But in the end, chances are he won't notice what make-up you're wearing whether it be "sexy hot red lips" or "smoldering bedroom eyes." And if he does notice, he's probably gay.

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    Elizabeth wrote: Dear Linda, It all depends on what you want. If you're looking to have crazy mind-blowing-sheet-tangling-porn-star-status sex, I'd go with the sexy hot red lips. Lips are sensuous, kissable, and easily wiped off. Smoldering bedroom eyes might leave streaks of mascara all over the pillowcases and raccoon eyes and leave you looking like a two cent corner worker. If you want to "impress" the guy, I'd go with the "smoldering bedroom eyes." A wise man once wrote, "The eyes are the window of the soul." So to "impress," go with highlighting they eyes. But in the end, chances are he won't notice what make-up you're wearing whether it be "sexy hot red lips" or "smoldering bedroom eyes." And if he does notice, he's probably gay.

    Sounds like a plan, Elizabeth.

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    The best impressions are made with confidence, a strong sense of self and inner beauty.

    The physical tastes of men differ from man to man so emphasize your best assets for the most attractive look. And don't try too hard; that's never pretty.

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    Rebecca wrote: The best impressions are made with confidence, a strong sense of self and inner beauty. The physical tastes of men differ from man to man so emphasize your best assets for the most attractive look. And don't try too hard; that's never pretty.

    Hi Rebecca, Oh yes. You never want to try too hard. Thanks for the tips.

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