Honey, you have the right idea. Control is key! Find a poolboy and keep doing what you're doing!

NOBODY likes having sex with their husband. What's the problem?
You should ask advice only when you STOP thinking of other people. Please.

you’re delusional if you think your sex is actually working to control him. Sex is available all over the place and I wouldn’t be surprised if your “whipped” husband had a few secondary cubby holes he crawled into late at night.

What's so bad about sex with your husband? Did you always dislike it or did that start when you started using sex for control? Something's disconnected there...relationships take work and a healthy sex life takes work too. Stop controlling and start thinking about why you're not into sex with your husband.

D.I.V.O.R.C.E. Sing it with me now. Sex kicks ass and it shouldn't be a chore. Get out! Get out now!

Right on, sista! Love them pool boys. I am particularly fond of the builders working next door in the sun.

Not only is control obtainable through sex, "Michael," but it is necessary for women to embrace these powers simply because it is one facet of life men are unable to dominate (no doubt this is a controversial topic in the world of feminism).
While it is unfortunate that you feel you have to use solely sex to control your husband, it is beneficial for women to use their powers of attraction in order to get what they want. This, however, is a fine line, because women frequently use ONLY this facet to define themselves, which is unfortunate because fit young women will quickly find themselves shit out of luck 20 years later when their boobs are sagging to the floor.

For this reason, women need to understand and harness their many, many talents and skills- whatever it may be- and understand that their outer beauty will only get them so far. They must use this slight and temporary attraction of males to get what they want and in the end use it to their own agenda.

Men's doggedly physical attraction to women makes them vulnerable in a way that allows women to dominate in this one aspect of society. Their simple voracity is an inevitable fact of life. The only way women can benefit from it is to understand and embrace it.

On another note, you should come up with creative ways for YOU to be more turned on by your husband.
Experiment a little... this will help your control over him as well as your attraction and therefore your relationship with him.