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Shauna
I was out with some friends at a club and we were dancing. A guy came up to dance with me and he was a very touchy kind of dancer. I REALLY don't like this bumping kind of dancing, he looked at me so confused and ran off. Am I scaring men off? Are we supposed to get that close to men at clubs? Help because I want to meet a new guy!

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    Hercules
    No, it just means he REALLY can't dance, so when he saw that he couldn't do the I'm-a-guy-wearing-a-striped-button-up-with-a-beer up and down dryhump technique, he ran off because he realized his secret of being a rhythmless/poor dancer may have been exposed!

    Wait for a guy that's willing to expose himself as a crappy dancer. ;)

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    Shauna
    Oh, Mardi of course i appreciate all your help! I am so lost some times! Thanks!

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    Shauna
    Hercules wrote: No, it just means he REALLY can't dance, so when he saw that he couldn't do the I'm-a-guy-wearing-a-striped-button-up-with-a-beer up and down dryhump technique, he ran off because he realized his secret of being a rhythmless/poor dancer may have been exposed! Wait for a guy that's willing to expose himself as a crappy dancer. ;)

    That makes sense. Great!

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    esther
    i hate the booty hump dance or the man sandwiches, ugh! so dumb and boring. i like to see men or women dancing whetther it is good or bad, actually i like the bad ones cause they are awsome, anyway i am having a bla bla day so... no you are not scaring the men off, atleast not the ones you want, any guy that thinks it's okay to booty hump a stranger is not a guy i would want around me later on.
    keep looking for the good guy that treats you right and stay away from the crotch shakers.

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    Amanda
    i like booty dancing! it's fun, but i loath when a stranger thinks it's okay to approach me from behind. when did that start becoming acceptable?

    btw, there's nothing wrong with you bebe.

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    Tiffany
    There's a reason they made "Night at the Roxbury," most people find unsolicited bumping a problem. He obviously wasn't the right guy for you to meet. Hang in there, when you find the right guy, you won't have to worry about the gross ones anymore.

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    Maureen
    You're not 'scaring men off'. If they approached you it's because they either had an ego already or developed the confidence to come up and dance with you, but were shot down when they realized you weren't about to rub yourself all over them. If you were an easy, everyone can screw me, kind of girl - you would have let this bumping and grinding continue. BUT, you're not - which is great and you shouldn't be the least bit worried about it. Clubs aren't the best places to find the gentlemen we women deserve. Try someplace a bit more mellow when browsing for bachelors. Keep what interests you the most in mind when evaluating anyone you may soon meet and think about how compatible the two of you really are. The right guy who isn't into way-too-close dancing at the club will come along soon enough

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